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A few updates to tide you ravenous sugars over for the weekend...

Confirmed with Mr. Nice for Tuesday. Man, I freaking LOVE Clyde's, the food is delicious and the service is great. I'm on a seafood binge right now so if they have crab or salmon I'll definitely be ordering that. We'll see how Mr. Nice handles the check/tip at the end of the night...I feel like the way someone handles a restaurant bill says a lot about a SD's character.

Beauty stuff...I ordered the Retin A last week. 10 to 21 days to ship, so at the worst it'll come by the very end of this month. Can't wait. Did another at-home glycolic acid peel today (not so much a peel as a mask, really) and my skin is looking pretty decent. Need to keep it in good shape for Tuesday, so no more going to bed without washing my face (the cardinal sin!)

Came across a really good "tell-all" article about beauty on Allure's website today: Confessions of a Beauty Editor.

As far as clothes go, my current obsession is Urban Outfitters. I'd have to lose 10 or 15 pounds before I would look good in anything they sell (which would be a little tricky - I'm already a size 2/4) , but I still adore their ugly/pretty clothes.

Ahh I can't wait to go traveling this summer! I've got such bad wanderlust. I'll do some traveling in Asia for a couple of weeks and also a week or so along the west coast of America. This is all new for me - I've never even been on a plane before! While in Asia I plan on eating all the strangest, most unusual food I can possibly find (fried crickets, anyone?). I'll also be doing several hours of walking/hiking each day though (walking burns about 100 calories an hour) so hopefully the calories will balance out.

Ok, that's it for now, happy weekend sugars! Hope everyone's keeping hope alive in their search for a SD.

You may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one.

Boston: Still MIA. Tired of chasing this guy, but he lives sooooo close to me that I'm really tempted just because it'll be so much more convenient. Plus, I'm more sexually attracted to him than I am to Mr. Nice. Probably because of his irritating cockiness. Ah well. If anything new develops I'll blog it ASAP.

Going out to a late lunch with Mr. Nice at Clyde's on Tuesday afternoon. He's very cool in that he is the pursuant one in our relationship - he sent a follow-up email the night after our date asking for a second meeting, which was very sweet. At first I thought this guy might be creepy and desperate, but the more I communicate with him, the more I see he's just a sweet guy who's going through a hard divorce all alone. I can only imagine what a blow to your self-esteem a divorce must be, esp. after 15+ years of marriage.

Some SDs are looking for sex and kink, some are looking for arm candy, some are guys stuck in fratboy-mode for the rest of their lives. But this guy seems like he just badly needs a companion and a friendly ear.

Going to try to bring up the allowance question at our lunch. It's funny, I almost didn't go to our first date. I got lost on the way there, ended up passing it, then turned around to come home. Luckily on the way home I saw the road I was supposed to turn on to and made a last-second decision to go through with it. And now I'm really, really glad I did.

On my profile I say I need a SD who can afford at least 2000 a month - I'm def. going to try for 3000 a month with Mr. Nice. He's making 500,000+ a year, so I'm pretty sure he can afford it. I heard someone say on the SA blog that it should be like tithes - 10% of the SD's income! I think that's a little extreme - I would not feel comfortable accepting that amount of money from a man. I think that at first, a sugarbaby should determine her needs independent of any daddy. THEN when she meets a man, she can see what he has to offer her and adjust her expectations accordingly. Once again, I will quote from the now-defunct blog, Wannabe Sugarbaby:

"Don't say "what am I worth to you," you need to tell him what you think you're worth. In my opinion, you should ask for an amount that covers all your monthly bills, including rent and leaves you with enough cash for two spa trips. "

(I wish she had kept updating! She gave good advice and was really experienced. Tiffany, if you're reading this, please come back!)

Now, for me, that amount is probably about 2K. 1200 in rent and bills, plus 2 generous spa trips. I could live very, very comfortably for 2 thousand a month. But for an extra grand a month, I could live like the freaking queen of England. And for a guy who makes somewhere close to a million dollars a year, the difference between 24,000 and 36,000 is elementary.

So yeah. I made another wishlist today, but this one includes investing in a Roth IRA for my retirement. Remember sugarbabes - save some of that sugar for your golden years! Sugaring is great, but it won't last forever. Invest a little while you're young and you can be a millionaire when you're old. True story.

(Image: Machu Picchu, one of the places I MUST visit before I die. So freaking beautiful.)

My date with Mr. Nice

I'm officially changing J's nickname to Mr. Nice...reasons to be disseminated here.

Ok, so, Wednesday afternoon I met with Mr. Nice for coffee at a Starbucks. We spoke for about an hour about various things: his divorce, his kids, his work and travel, my work, my school, our hobbies. He was incredibly nice - in fact, he was beyond nice, he was almost desperately pleasant. Boston, in retrospect, now seems stand-offish and arrogant. Our convo was easy and fun - I felt at ease with him immediately.

Mr. Nice wanted to go to lunch with me, but that was a little too quick for me. I've only just started my sugar career, but I've already got a set routine with potential sugar daddies: coffee, then lunch/dinner, and at that second meal I feel it's just about the right time to decide if it's time to go forward with an arrangement.

Next week he's going to Vegas with some friends for a long weekend (he says occasional gambling is his main vice), but he wants to have lunch with me. He was very no-pressure, which I liked a lot. He just wants something light and friendly while he goes through his divorce. He seemed like he was really desperate for companionship. Yeah, I'll be seeing him again.

It's so strange - Mr. Nice makes A LOT of money (his bracket is 500 thousand to a million a year) - a lot more than Boston. But he was so much more laid-back, just an easy-going and normal guy. Isn't that strange? You'd think the more money someone makes, the more driven and insufferable that person would be. You'd also think that to make that much money, the person would have to be really aggressive. But Mr. Nice was the opposite of those things. Which is pretty cool. I'm going to try to see him again next Tuesday, during which we will discuss arrangement terms. I'll let you guys know.

To everyone who's commenting on my blog: thank you for your support! It's the comments that make me want to keep writing. Here's hoping all you sugar babes find a sweet daddy very soon.

Miniature panic attack.

Had a weird little thing this morning just now, right when I woke up. I started feeling really panicked and stressed out and my heart was pounding. It only lasted a minute or so, but geeze, it really freaked me out. I've only ever had one panic attack before in my whole life, and this felt like the beginning of one.

Ok, J emailed back and we've agreed to meet at a Starbucks about 50 minutes from my house. I need to start getting ready now if I want to be able to leave in time. I'll post when I get home from work tonight about how it went and whether or not it looks like I might have successfully landed a cool sugardaddy. Cross your fingers for me ladies!

Limbo

Stuck nowhere right now, waiting for J to email me back confirming he's available to meet tomorrow...I'll give him a more creative blog nickname as things develop and I find out more about him. Maybe "Mr. Millionaire" hahaha.

Just put the order for in the mail for my Retin A 0.05%...it says on the order form to allow 10 to 21 days for delivery. 3 weeks? Seriously? Is it coming by Pony Express? In any case, I'm seriously looking forward to it. You guys have probably noticed how much I love experimenting on my skin. Need to make sure I buy a good moisturizer with strong SPF to go along with it (the active ingredient makes your skin super sensitive to the sun). Should also buy a cute hat and some kick-ass giant sunglasses. Maybe I can go shopping tomorrow before my coffee date with J...

J is the one who offered to let me go shopping with his card sometimes. I'm pondering what sorts of things I would buy with someone else's credit card...honestly, I think on the first shopping trip I would buy completely responsible stuff at Costco or Target - dishwashing soap, contact solution, toilet paper, cat food. It would be nice to have a little back-up on these kinds of basics in case our arrangement ends suddenly and I don't have as much expendable cash on hand. Plus, I hate going to the store any more than absolutely necessary, so buying in bulk is the perfect M.O. for me.

Then after those basics are covered....clothes, clothes, and more clothes. I haven't bought new clothes in a long time, so a whole closet full would make me feel like a very spoiled little princess indeed. And how cute are these petal-pink Louboutins?

New sugar daddy prospect on the line...proceeding with caution.

New email from the decent-looking millionaire J:

"This week is pretty good for me, the best days would be Wednesday or Friday. I work in Xxxxx. Can we meet half way? Perhaps Xxxxx would work, I am assuming you are in Xxxxxx as that is what the profile says. I could make it around 2 pm either day if you want to have a late lunch or meet for coffee. You can get me on my cell if you want to talk first xxx-xxx-xxxx Feel free to call anytime. Take care."

Big giant brownie points for making a date and also for suggesting we meet halfway - esp. as he works an hour away from my place. I'm probably going to try to meet with him Wednesday, ie, tomorrow. Don't know if Boston will be around, but he's not doing anything to pursue our relationship, so I might let him dangle in the wind for a little while.

(Yeah, I know he has to work hard to remain rich enough to be a sugar daddy, but would it kill him to take 30 seconds to text me once in a while? It costs nothing to be polite.)

Geeze, it's weird how it's so easy to become attached to potential guys before they've even shown any SD qualities. I'm def. going to keep trying with Boston, and boy, it would be awesome to have 2 SDs.

OK, I'm writing J back now with the address of a Starbucks that's semi-in-between our locations. Woo! If I can meet with J AND Boston, this might be a very good week for me.

Hehehe - I'm signed up for the urban dictionary word of the day, and a few days ago they sent me a word which I thought appropriate, and I wanted to share it:

	sexsuade
	To convince someone to agree to, accept, or do something, usually by using the promise of sex (explicit or implicit) or by withholding sex until you get your way. Girl 1: My bf won't take me out to dinner. Girl 2: You need to sexsuade that man!

Hahahahaha. Love it.

Boston unavailable, Fat Daddy impolite. Story of my life.

Boston texted me back 30 min. later, saying that he's swamped today and tomorrow. I texted him back that it was ok and that I'd try him again later this week. Anyone else annoyed by this kind of behavior? I don't just want him to chase me - I want him to WANT to chase me. He's the big-shot here, he's the experienced one...I don't need him to hold my hand through this, but if he wanted to do 50% of the work, I sure as hell wouldn't mind.

Well in any case, I kind of wish we could just skip the whole awkward first couple of dates thing and get straight to a nice, straight-forward arrangement. I have a feeling that although our conversations are only so-so in terms of interest, our sexual compatibility will be quite high.

I wish I could just skip ahead a couple of months to a time when we can have silly pillow talk and tickling and nuzzling without it being awkward. A time when we can just hang out and watch movies, or spend all day in bed. A time when I can ask him all those intimate questions about his life and his personal philosophies and what brought him to this lifestyle. Those are the moments I live for. That's what I'm looking for in my ideal SD relationship.

SO YEAH. Going to try him Wednesday or Thursday. Got plenty of time this month before bills come due, so going to spend it romancing some potential daddies.

In other news, got an email from a guy I'll call Fat Daddy. FD and I emailed back and forth a little - his letters were awesome, smart, kind, cultured. But when he sent his pictures, I'll admit - I was turned off. The guy must weigh 275, 300 pounds. And he's not just one of those "built" linebacker types - he's the fat/sweaty type who you can picture getting winded while walking up stairs.

But I didn't want to burn that bridge until I was secure in my relationship with another SD. So I told him that I was starting something up with another SD and that I only wanted ONE arrangement at a time. Then at the end of last month when I was really strapped for cash, I emailed him. But my other SD - a guy who I haven't mentioned on this blog before, I'll call him Mr. Sensitivity - came through for me, and I was able to make rent.

But right around this time, Fat Daddy's emails became a little rude - curt, even. I told him I couldn't meet him one day because I had to take my mom out. He wrote back "Sure...blow mom off." Rude, right? He had previously referred to himself as a Southern Gentleman, but he wrote several emails that really put me off.

So today he writes me and says "You still around baby? Still interested?"

Ugh. Don't call me "baby" unless we've been dating for at least a year, and/or you've been providing me 2 to 3 grand in spoiling each month. Most likely will not be responding.

Only the wrong guys are pursuing me. Going running tonight so that I can be in awesome shape when I start screwing around with Boston. Going to glaze my hair and do some strategic hair removal tonight.