You may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one.

Boston: Still MIA. Tired of chasing this guy, but he lives sooooo close to me that I'm really tempted just because it'll be so much more convenient. Plus, I'm more sexually attracted to him than I am to Mr. Nice. Probably because of his irritating cockiness. Ah well. If anything new develops I'll blog it ASAP.

Going out to a late lunch with Mr. Nice at Clyde's on Tuesday afternoon. He's very cool in that he is the pursuant one in our relationship - he sent a follow-up email the night after our date asking for a second meeting, which was very sweet. At first I thought this guy might be creepy and desperate, but the more I communicate with him, the more I see he's just a sweet guy who's going through a hard divorce all alone. I can only imagine what a blow to your self-esteem a divorce must be, esp. after 15+ years of marriage.

Some SDs are looking for sex and kink, some are looking for arm candy, some are guys stuck in fratboy-mode for the rest of their lives. But this guy seems like he just badly needs a companion and a friendly ear.

Going to try to bring up the allowance question at our lunch. It's funny, I almost didn't go to our first date. I got lost on the way there, ended up passing it, then turned around to come home. Luckily on the way home I saw the road I was supposed to turn on to and made a last-second decision to go through with it. And now I'm really, really glad I did.

On my profile I say I need a SD who can afford at least 2000 a month - I'm def. going to try for 3000 a month with Mr. Nice. He's making 500,000+ a year, so I'm pretty sure he can afford it. I heard someone say on the SA blog that it should be like tithes - 10% of the SD's income! I think that's a little extreme - I would not feel comfortable accepting that amount of money from a man. I think that at first, a sugarbaby should determine her needs independent of any daddy. THEN when she meets a man, she can see what he has to offer her and adjust her expectations accordingly. Once again, I will quote from the now-defunct blog, Wannabe Sugarbaby:

"Don't say "what am I worth to you," you need to tell him what you think you're worth. In my opinion, you should ask for an amount that covers all your monthly bills, including rent and leaves you with enough cash for two spa trips. "

(I wish she had kept updating! She gave good advice and was really experienced. Tiffany, if you're reading this, please come back!)

Now, for me, that amount is probably about 2K. 1200 in rent and bills, plus 2 generous spa trips. I could live very, very comfortably for 2 thousand a month. But for an extra grand a month, I could live like the freaking queen of England. And for a guy who makes somewhere close to a million dollars a year, the difference between 24,000 and 36,000 is elementary.

So yeah. I made another wishlist today, but this one includes investing in a Roth IRA for my retirement. Remember sugarbabes - save some of that sugar for your golden years! Sugaring is great, but it won't last forever. Invest a little while you're young and you can be a millionaire when you're old. True story.

(Image: Machu Picchu, one of the places I MUST visit before I die. So freaking beautiful.)